by Marcophoto Upshaw
AKA: Mark E Lodge, USA
Yesterday I had a rather unsettling experience. I began to flirt with a gal, and she responded to me in a way that I thought was totally out-of-proportion to what I said to her.
To make a long story short, she bristled at me and was rather rude. Yet, I had not said anything rude to her. I had not used the opening line that is so common of men in Second life, i.e. "nice tits, can I fuck them??!!!!"
After a series of back-and-forth ims with this gal, in which I asked her why she had been so rude to me, she said that she was soooo sick of receiving random requests for sex.
She concluded by saying to me: "I'm sorry you were at the receiving end of my anger, but how would you like it if you were getting these messages from random idiots wanting to have sex with you all the time?"
Here was my answer to her:
"Honey to be honest, my answer to you would be...welcome to life on sl as a woman. Every woman I know reports the same problem.
"I personally had the same experience. Let me explain. I used to work as a private investigator in sl. For that job I had to create a female alt. I was astounded at how much other guys were hitting on me...even though I had a pasty-faced noob skin. I tried to ignore them, but they would follow me around, interfering with my surveillance work. I began to really feel sorry for you gals. I felt like dogs were constantly sniffing at my butt! How annoying.
"But you know what? The thing is you either learn a graceful way to repel these nitwits, or you become bitter. What do you want to be, bitter or better? See, if you rebuke EVERY man who pays attention to you, soon YOU become a rude, nasty person. Today, I tried to talk to you, to flirt with you. I found you to be bristling at me even though I never said anything rude to you. It was very off-putting to me, and as you know, I removed you from my friends list.
"Here's a suggestion. If a guy says to you, "Wanna fuck a real man?" Say back to him, "I sure do, have you seen one around?" And smile sweetly. Or if a guy says, "Nice tits." Say to him, "They sure are, thank you." and walk away. Or, say, "They sure are! Would you like the link to where I bought them so you can upgrade YOURS?" Make it a joke, smile sweetly, and walk away. Then when you are alone, have a belly laugh!
"I want to show you something,...here is a link to a blog I wrote about this subject, titled "A Penis Brain Spouts Off":
http://marcosslhumorblog.blogspot.com/search/label/Jerky%20Men%20in%20Second%20Life%20®
"Good luck to you!
"Your friend,
--Marco"
After she apologized to me, I tried to add her back as a friend, and she declined!
So gals, what do YOU say when a jerk says "Nice tits, can I fuck them?"
Come on Jade, I know YOU have some good answers here...share them with us?
NekoGirl? What do you say to a rudey?
Narcissa?
Quira?
Honni?
Nelia?
Anon Y Mous ? Do you have anything to say?
Would you hotties share your favorite comebacks with us in the comments?
Oh and by-the-way....I think ALL of you have really nice tits, and can I fuck them?
--Marco
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Sayyyy, if you liked this posting today, would you tell a friend or two? Just copy/paste the paragraph below to a friend. Thank you so much!...
"Wow, you gotta read the crazy shit this guy writes, it is so damn funny!"
Read all about it today in Marco's SL Humor Blog at: http://marcosslhumorblog.blogspot.com/
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14 comments:
NekoGirl purrs and rubs up against Marco. "Hunneh you can touch meh bewbs anyday you sexy you :P"
As to the dealing with rude idiots...I have a multitude of ways :P
1.Orbiting
2.Banning
3.Ignoring
4th and final.....Insulting.
but if they'r cute and good flirters......Puuuuuuuurrrs and winks at Marco.
They may just get lucky :P
NEKOGIRL!!! *Marco gulps and falls off his toadstoole*...what I am doing sitting on toad shit is anybody's guess.
*Spits on his hand and slicks back his hair* Baby, bayaby, here I COME! PurrrrRRRrrrrr!
nekoGirl laughs and wags a finger at marco. "Nu huh! I'm not THAT easy :P. Gotta try harder to msake this neko Purr for you alone.....:P"
Oh, sorry. How about this, "NekoBaby, can I groom you?"
or
*Bites on your fur* CRUNCH got one!
or
*Mmmm, honey, your fur smells so sweet!*
NekoGirl giggles madly and blushes then grabs you to a nice, quiet, dark corner.....
*Marco pulls down the shade on the window as he falls down on the couch with her* "nuh uh, readers, nuh uh!"
No. I will NOT be polite. I will not tolerate, humor or in any way even passively condone the sexism that is rampant in SL.
I should not have to be civil to an uncivil person. I will not brush it off as a joke. I will point out that it is rude, sexist and disgusting behavior.
The only way for the sexism in SL to end, is if we ALL do not tolerate it. All of us, male and female, must make it clear that it is not acceptable to be sexually aggressive in the manner so many are. It's unacceptable and this is something that should be made clear. Not ignored or brushed off. Ignoring and brushing it off is passive permission to allow outrageous, vile and crude behavior to continue.
I have no problem in real life telling a man to back off, and neither will I in SL.
Well Odette, you certainly expressed yourself well. My point with this gal, was that she was being rude to ALL men. I had talked to her in a very polite manner, not at all sexual. She rebuffed me very rudely. It seems she had become so used to being prickly that she did not know how to be nice any longer.
Hmmm...
If a noob guy pushes himself up against me, with his noobie wood and says..
"Oi! Sexo?"
"Heya, you're hot! i want you on my cock"
"Suck me, baby"
OMG! There are lots of lines out there.. but none of them as sweet, seductive and challenging as.. ehem... well i won't say his name...LOL.
My replies would be:
1. No thanks!
2. Goodbye
3. I don't do noobs (<<--there is a group like this)
4. Nice cock, but i sure don't want it in my mouth.. i hate getting splinters.
Oh yeah, i also ignore and orbit some guys.
Some non-noobie guys would take a different approach.. trying hard to be dashing, romantic and seductive... TRYING HARD are the key words here.
But I have to give them some credit for the effort. but still the answer would be "NO, i don't wanna fuck you, i don't wanna do you, i don't even want to be in the same planet as you. So please take your poorly attached male-ego extension, and let me be."
In my book..
i have yet to meet anyone who can surpass the great Master Flirter's seduction technique.
Oh, btw... the day i read "A Penis Brain Spouts Off" is the day I first talked to the Master Flirter.
It took me a while before i wanted to ask him.. "I've got nice tits, wanna...(lol, you know the drill)"
WOOOOOOO FAN, FAN, FAN *Marco fans himself vigorously*
Wow Jade, I think I need to take a cold shower after READING that!!! WooooooooHoooo!
Thanks from the Master Flirter!
wow! great idea!
may i join you?
;)
You may! Anyone else? *wink.
Marco, honey.. apologies for this long comment.. lol
Hi Odette!
I agree with you that we need not tolerate sexist behavior.
I, too, sometimes tell guys (sl and rl) to back off. Sometimes. Why? Because not everyone is rude (wrong timing perhaps). And because not everyone listens. And i cannot force them to listen. And i cannot force them to change.
Some would even get more turned on if you rebuke them. They might even get more aggressive or more abusive.
Sometimes, just saying NO is enough to make them realize that their "flirtation" (if you call that flirtation!) tactics does not work for you, and will, most probably, not work with others. They may not get the idea immediately, but eventually they will..
And i also agree with Marco on being "bitter or better". There are a lot of different ways of telling someone off. And sometimes, a combination of different ways work best too..
One time, inworld, i was at Virtual Horizons Employment Agency. A guy came in, looking for a job.. then he went, "I like your breasts, i wanna see more". So i told him to please stop, that that was uncalled for, very rude, and very out of line (we're in a PG sim!) Then he kept pushing against me and started getting naked.. Eventually, i had to trap him then orbit his sorry ass off the sim.
I was alone in that sim. With him. And yeah, it may be sl, but i was shaken and scared.
Had it been in real life, even if i tell him that his behavior was unacceptable, he would still have his way. *shudders at the thought*
On another note, i appreciate a guy who is creative in his flirting. And i mean flirting, not just some small talk for him to get laid... LOL.
Ooops! Time is up.. sorry, honey.. XD Thanks!
Thank you Jade, that was a very articulate answer. Well said.
Apparently I hit a nerve with this topic...we had a record number of "unique visitors" yesterday.
My final crack at the end was intended as a joke and I hope I did not offend anyone, though *shrug* I have pretty much quit worrying about offending people. I can't please everyone.
Personally, I love good flirting and good bantering. It makes life fun! But, it should be polite and nice, with all rules of social etiquette observed.
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